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Believe it or not, men feel good about themselves by the way women
respond. Remember this the next time you want to nag or act unhappy about
something a man has done. If you re not happy with a man, he will not feel
good about being around you. This is not to say that you should put up with
crap, but the best thing to do when a man does something to tee you off is to
let him know straight up without being an overly dramatic emotional motor
mouth. Then after you ve told him how you feel, change the subject. If he
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keeps up an undesirable behavior, remove yourself from his presence or cut
off contact.
#2 - Respond to his interests and ask him for his advice/opinion
Try to get to know his area of interest or expertise then ask him questions
about it. Men love to go on for hours about themselves and what they are
good at. When you ask a man questions, you ll get into his mind. This
increases his ability to have a connection with you. Thank him by saying, I
really value your opinion. Better yet, find something broken and have him
fix it. P.S. Don t EVER ask him about the two of you. NEVER!
#3 - Be playful and mysterious around him
There s nothing more challenging to a man than being attracted to a woman
who keeps him guessing without her acting like a stray cat. If he never
knows what will come out of your mouth, you ll have him hooked. This
does not mean you need to keep your hands super glued on him or act so
evasive that you frustrate him. This is the same as giving him a little but
holding something back. Avoid from becoming an encyclopedia.
#4 - Have a great sense of humor and laugh at his jokes
Think about the last time someone bought into what you said and how it
made you feel. More than likely you felt on top of the world. When you
genuinely respond to a man s jokes, he ll think he s Mr. Big. If you don t
think it s funny, then casually change the subject. Say something like, Hey,
what did you think about the game the other night?
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#5 - Compliment him
A man will wallow in a good compliment for days on end. Make sure
you re sincere and avoid from acting like you re on a talk show. A man s
ego is as fragile as your self-esteem. If you have him thinking that he s
world class, he ll do the hop scotch and always seek you out. Practice this
tip: walk up to a man, smile, say something unique then walk away. See if
you don t have him chasing you down after that.
#6 - Show admiration/appreciation
Similar to #5 - Men are biologically wired to be Heroes - having the
respect of others is key to feeling manly. The best way to increase a man s
interest is to show your appreciation. If you re out on a date and he gives
you a nice gift, thank him for it even if it is not your style.
#7 - Remember his name
If you ve been introduced or he comes over to greet you, he will be
impressed if you remember his name the next time you meet. If you want to
blow his mind after your first hello, introduce him to someone else in the
same room while bragging a little about him. If his name is John and he told
you he just received a recent promotion, say something like, John was just
telling me about his promotion.
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#8 - Lock eyes with him
You may know of a man who causes your heart to race every time you think
about him. The best way to show him you re interested is to lock eyes with
him - not the stalking type - but keep his gaze for more than a few seconds
then give him a smile. Not everyone is bold enough to have eye contact
with someone they find attractive. When you look into his eyes, you may
find something there that you ve never seen before. Mercy!
#9 - Ask for help
This is similar to #2. If you want to awaken the rescuer in a man, just ask
him for his help. If you re working together, ask him to solve a problem. A
great way to meet men in the grocery store is to ask them to reach an item
for you. This gives you a reason to introduce yourself. You can follow his
lead to see if he s interested. Where ever you go, show men how they can
help you by finding a reason for them to feel needed.
#10 - Body language
Remain open instead of closed with your posture, arms, etc. You should not
have a needy or uptight energy but a responsive one - relax. If you come
across like you re a Private Investigator, men will think you re nuts and
rightly so. You can peak a man s interest and send possible shock waves by
finding a reason to touch him briefly and occasionally when you speak with
him. Do the laugh slap - only in gentle feminine way. If he says something
funny, slap him on the arm (don t do it like you re boxing) and say, Man,
you crack me up!
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#11 - Become evasive
Many women believe that they need to be obvious about their interest by
constantly being around a man. It actually works in your best interest if you
fly low. If you were interested in a man, gave him a compliment with a
great smile then walked away, you ll be remembered more than if you were
a 24/7 streaming internet chatterbox. Mystery is the best antidote to help a
man wonder know how to keep a secret.
# 12 - Give him a gutsy wink
When all else fails, wind her up with a smile and a wink while sashaying
down your imaginary runway - just don t have him thinking you re a clown.
He ll bail out and run away. Practice winking at yourself in the mirror.
Show that you re interested in you and you ll naturally draw men in.
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Chapter 19 How NOT to prepare for a date
At times we tend to be moody about the way we look. Today we may feel
on top of the world and next week, like a mole in a hole, PMS-ing. Some
days I look in the mirror with shock and horror gasping, What in the heck is
that? I mean really, sometimes the person who is staring back at me appears
to be someone who s done dragged themselves out of a pile of mud. On
days when I am feeling HOT, I ll look in the mirror and think, Damn, I
love you too, darling...you sweet, gorgeous, irresistible and fabulous
woman! When I m feeling on I want to kiss myself on the lips all day
long.
Never accept a date on your ugly days. It will make everything seem out of
sorts and you may perceive a man with your ugly day lens (too short, too
skinny, not smart, goofy, insensitive, sexist, no butt, not good looking, no
sense of humor, egomaniac etc.)
You need to look and feel like a million bucks and going on a date is no time
to try to convince yourself that you re feeling great. This is where you
exercise self respect. As bad as you may want to meet up with Mr.
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